Whatever has our attention determines what we reflect.

Main message: Shame controls our attention and shapes our behavior, but freedom comes when we stop staring at shame and instead turn our attention to God's presence and identity—what God does with brokenness and how He made us.

Key points:

• What has our attention determines our actions and reflections.
• Shame tells us to be quiet, small, and unworthy, causing us to back away.
• You can't free yourself by staring at shame or asking it to release you.
• Bring shame into the presence of God and let God redefine the story.
• Remember who God is and what He does with broken pieces; focus on being made in God's image and "fearfully and wonderfully made."
• Shift your gaze from past experiences to the One who wanted your attention.

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